Communities Grow Together Despite Thousands Of Miles

Image by Peter Whitman via the Narragansett Times

BY ALLIE LEWIS

SOUTH KINGSTOWN (NARRAGANSETT TIMES)
ā€“ Two and a half years ago, Peter Whitman received a Facebook message that would change his life forever. What began as a simple conversation has led Peter and his wife Diane to build meaningful relationships with people half a world away.

In the fall of 2016, Peter received a Facebook message from Daniel Masanduko asking if he was a farmer in South Africa. Both men were part of the Facebook group, ā€œFarming Godā€™s Way Malawi,ā€ which shares photos and advice about a reduced tillage farming method Peter had become interested in.

Peter had liked a photo of Danielā€™s crops a few days before receiving a friend request.

He explained to Daniel that although he is a farmer, he lives far away from South Africa. Peter and Diane operate the Mission Farm here in Wakefield and strongly believe in sustainable agriculture. Neither of them knew anything about Malawi at the time.

ā€œHonestly, I couldnā€™t have found Malawi on a map if you asked me to, before all this,ā€ Peter said. ā€œI had no idea it existed.ā€

The two men became fast friends through daily messaging about farming and shared stories about their personal lives. Daniel, he learned, in addition to being a farmer, was also his villageā€™s pastor.

Through his own personal research, Peter learned more about the challenges and struggles of people living in Malawi. Despite coming from one of the poorest parts of one of the poorest countries in Africa, Daniel never asked for anything other than his friendship.

This pushed Peter and Diane to search for ways they could help Daniel and the people of Gogo Village. Initially, they had only hoped to drill a well, but their efforts only grew from there.

Africa, known as the begging basket of the world because of the amount of aid given to countries struggling with famine and malnutrition, has some of the most nutrient-rich soil on the planet. Peter became interested in fundamental farming methods that, although they are more labor intensive, do not leave fields as vulnerable to erosion as tilling does.

Recently, parts of Southeastern Africa have been devastated by a cyclone, which has washed away roads, houses and many crops, leaving many unsure of where their next meal will be coming from.

The people of Gogo Village, Peter said, have been lucky to not have lost any of their crops, but 30 homes have been destroyed.

Apart from more recent challenges, Malawi has also been hit particularly hard by the HIV/AIDS epidemic. An estimated 15 to 20 percent of children in Malawi are orphans, and many rely on the care of their aging grandparents.

Orphaned or not, Peter said every child is in the same boat when it comes to struggling with malnutrition.

ā€œEven if they have parents, that doesnā€™t mean theyā€™re going to get fed,ā€ Whitman said. ā€œMalnutrition is widespread.ā€

While trying to help the village gain access to clean drinking water and have a well drilled, Peter quickly ran into a number of roadblocks along the way and continued to receive bad news from organizations that help drill wells.

ā€œBasically, every village in Africa needs a well,ā€ Whitman said. ā€œThey canā€™t just go everywhere.ā€

Rather than just giving up, however, Whitmanā€™s efforts only expanded from there.

Through working with support from a small, non-profit organization, Forgotten Voices, as well Annie Chikhwaza, known as a ā€œMother of Malawiā€ for her work with orphans in Africa through her non-governmental organization, Kondanani Childrenā€™s Village, the Whitmans were able to help build a new church and begin a feeding center in Gogo Village. Although the Whitmans had been the ones leading the efforts, once their parish, the First Baptist Church of Narragansett, heard about what they were attempting to do they pledged to pay for half of the new church.

ā€œWe believe that everyone should have access to clean water, nutrition, basic health care and education,ā€ he said. ā€œThose are the four areas we think every human should have access to.ā€

At times, accomplishing this was a struggle, Peter said, and he was doubtful the project could move forward. He attributes his faith in seeing him through.

ā€œWe really believe that God pulled us all together,ā€ Peter Whitman said. ā€œItā€™s mathematically impossible that God didnā€™t make this connection, in my mind. Things donā€™t happen by coincidence.ā€

Eventually, in March 2018, Peter and Diane made the trip to Malawi to see the well and the feeding centerā€™s completion. Daniel and the rest of the community welcomed them with open arms.

ā€œThe people were so friendly and so welcoming,ā€ Diane said. ā€œMalawiā€™s nickname is the warm heart of Africa.ā€

She had been particularly excited to meet with and connect with the children, but many of them ā€œcrumpled into tearsā€ when they saw Diane and Peter. Given how remote the village was, and lack of easily accessible roadways, many of the children had never seen a white person before, she said.

ā€œTalk about stranger danger,ā€ she said. ā€œNot only are you someone they donā€™t know, you are the wrong color.ā€

During the few weeks they spent in Gogo Village, Peter and Diane took time to meet with people in their homes and discuss what they thought they needed most to improve their lives.

ā€œWeā€™ve really wanted them to talk amongst themselves and express their needs,ā€ Diane said. ā€œWe want to do whatā€™s best for them and not impose our thoughts, ideas, ideology, any of that ā€“ on them. We want to ask what they need so we can help them help themselves.ā€

ā€œTheyā€™re coming up with the ideas,ā€ Peter said. ā€œTheyā€™re intelligent people. Theyā€™re smart people, without an education. The learning center, the nursery school, was their idea.ā€

Since the children would already be there on weekday mornings to eat at the feeding center, which serves 130 children for only $500 per month, members of the community worked out a way that they could provide the children with educational instruction as well.

Peter had been in favor of offering the free meal seven days a week, but members of the community advised against it because they felt it took too much away from familial bonds.

ā€œWe take their advice,ā€ Peter said. ā€œThey know their culture better than we do. But we would like to potentially add a second meal.ā€

Preschool will make a huge impact on their lives, Peter said, because there are so few opportunities to learn and practice their reading and writing skills outside of a primary school classroom. Many families are not able to send their children to secondary school, despite three months of education only costing $1. Many families are also unable to afford the entrance exam fee into secondary school.

Despite a number of challenges people face, Peter said there a lot of things to be celebrated.

ā€œThereā€™s really a lot of things we envy about them,ā€ Peter said. ā€œThe simplicity of their lives, how connected they are to themselves and their neighbors, how strong their faith is. They are much more grounded than we are in so many ways.ā€

Their time in Gogo Village has not only made them more appreciative of everything they have and their lives here in the United States, but it has also made them more aware the wasteful culture of America. Recent research suggests that Americans waste 150,000 tons of food each day ā€“ roughly one pound per person.

ā€œThese kids who come to the feeding center, thatā€™s probably the only meal theyā€™ll get that day,ā€ Peter said. ā€œPeople were going two or three days between meals.ā€

ā€œWe had a really hard time when we came home just reconciling what we saw and witnessed and lived for two weeks,ā€ Diane added. ā€œWhat we see here, the waste, everything from clothing food, we live in a disposable society. Itā€™s really hard to grapple with when youā€™ve experienced what theyā€™ve lived with and what theyā€™ve lived without.ā€

While some people may think of their lives as miserable, Peter said for the people of Malawi, this is just their lives. They give thanks every day for everything they do have.

ā€œItā€™s been a very difficult adjustment for me,ā€ he said. ā€œWe complain about everything. We complain about waiting too long in the line at a grocery store, and we have a store where you can buy anything you want in the world if you have the money in your pocket to get it. And we complain about everything.ā€

ā€œItā€™s a struggle for me to listen to people complain now because most of us donā€™t even have a clue,ā€ Peter continued. ā€œAnd itā€™s nobodyā€™s fault we donā€™t have a clue, itā€™s our reality.ā€

Back home, members of the community have rallied around Peter and Dianeā€™s efforts by helping to make dresses and t-shirts for children in Gogo Village. Once a month, a group of women gather together in the basement of the First Baptist Church of Narragansett with sewing machines and hot irons to go to work.

When Peter and Diane first went to Malawi, they brought over more than 70 pieces of clothing, with most items fitting a bit large on the small, malnourished children. The volunteers who gather each week have kept this in mind as they sew together dresses from pillowcases and iron on animal stitch patches to t-shirts.

The sense of community thatā€™s grown between Peter and Diane and the people of Gogo Village has also extended to their entire church. They are often in each otherā€™s prayers, Peter said.

ā€œTheyā€™ve really become our family,ā€ he added. ā€œWe talk to them all the time. They confide in us about stuff. We share good things and bad things going on in our lives and struggles. Itā€™s a very strong bond.ā€

Peter and Diane are currently working to form a non-governmental organization, with the hope of being able to extend a helping hand to other villages outside of Gogo.

ā€œItā€™s wonderful to have the personal connection with them and to build relationships, even with the church as a whole,ā€ Diane said. ā€œThey hear so much about the stories, and they see the picture and they hear the music, and I think itā€™s created a sense of community. Even though theyā€™re thousands of miles away, we really do feel for them.ā€

Peter and Diane hope to return to Malawi next spring, where children have already been growing stronger and more nourished thanks to the feeding center.

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